Right or wrong, I have been in the workforce for a long time and as my salary increased I felt more accomplished. So, I am programmed that way. A girlfriend, who is reading along, suggested the book Becoming a Chief Home Officer. That made me take a deep breath because the anxiety of being "at home" is overwhelming.
Luckily, today my coach agreed to meet with me even though it wasn't our scheduled time. I expressed this feeling of chaos and anxiety over not having accomplishments. She listened and kept asking me what I wanted out of this journey. She keeps asking that question!!
She specifically asked me whether I was wanting to find the thing that would turn into my career or was I trying to figure out something else? I said I thought it was something else. So she asked me if I wanted to figure out what I lost when making all of these compromises in my life or did I want to have new experiences? At first I said I thought I wanted to figure out what I lost. The next question was when I found the pieces that were lost along the way, would I feel satisfied and would it lead me to the "accomplishment" that I keep looking for? Ugh!!
The questions go on and on. That is her job :) We finally got down to this:
- I am interested in a lot of different things.
- It doesn't matter if I try something new and it doesn't end up being a life-long career.
- I will take something away from any new experience.
- I may find a passion that I was not aware of.
- I might find the pieces I think I'm missing while having new experiences.
- My skills and talents may expand.
- I will be able to satisfy my need for connecting with people by having new experiences.
- Accomplishment is not about money (BIG, HUGE...almost buying it revelation).
The point of this is that I have been making a living for a long time. I have shifted into making a life instead.
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